Last week, I talked about some of my personal struggles with money. So now I am going to switch gears and bring you some content about something everyone struggles with! Self-sabotaging thoughts.
Today, I am excited to announce a guest post! Michelle Huddleston of With the Huddleston's shares some practical advice on controlling those negative voices in our heads that stand in our way of doing great things.
Overcoming Limiting & Self Sabotaging Beliefs
We all have them. At some point in time we all deal with limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs. I don’t remember getting a warning sign with this part of life, it just sort of happened… and for me, it started at a young age. I can remember the feelings of not fitting in, not measuring up, needing to be more and do more. All of these feelings lead me to make some pretty bad choices, but even still I am thankful for the experiences.
If it had not been for those, I don’t think I would have been as prepared for what was to come - marriage and motherhood. And with that came more choices that involved homeschooling and starting a family business. I definitely don’t claim to have it all together, but what I do have are tried and true ways to overcome limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs.
It’s one thing to admit that you have limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs, but it’s another thing to identify them. Asking the question, “Why do I think this way?” is a start in airing out the beliefs attached to stinkin’ thinkin’.
As a woman, wife, and mother, there are quite a few negative beliefs that can cloud our minds. Any and everything from needing to be a better wife and keeping a cleaner home to putting more effort into homeschooling and possibly helping provide for the family are just a few areas that limiting beliefs can latch onto and wreak havoc.
The key here is to identify them by bringing them to the surface, then deciding that you will no longer allow them to identify you.
I’ve always said that this is the hardest part in the whole process. Why? Well, because sometimes there can be things attached to the limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs that we don’t quite want to deal with. You know those things that would be much better if they just miraculously went away? Yeah, those.
However, facing your limiting beliefs allows room for healing. It gives you a chance to not only overcome them, but conquer them. I’ve tried the brush-it-off method, and trust me when I tell you that it’s only a matter of time before they come back, sometimes stronger than before.
This is also the step where thinking has to become believing. Don’t just think you can get over the self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors… believe that you will. With that mindset, it becomes easier to shift into the next step.
Replacing the Stinkin’ Thinkin’
When dealing with negative thoughts, they have to be replaced with something. There becomes room for a new story to tell because let’s face it, the old story wasn’t working out so well. You get to decide what your new story will be and what you will tell yourself. I personally use Scripture-based affirmations.
Through meditation on the positive aspects you can begin to see a real shift in the pep in your step. You are no longer simply hoping that things will change or be different on sweet day… no. You are now walking to the new tune playing in your mind.
Instead of walking around thinking, “If I could only get it right or stop messing things up.” your song now becomes, “I trust myself to make the right decision!” Big difference in beliefs.
Embrace the New You
This seems to be the second hardest part of overcoming limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs. Why? Because it’s new. New takes getting used to. It takes time before it becomes completely familiar. And a lot of times, we revert back to our old ways of thinking because it’s easier… it’s familiar… and we’re used to it.
In essence, this is the biggest hurdle to climb over but can be easy because of your new way of thinking. When a familiar doubt arises, you know how to identify it, face it, and replace it!! Your new thought process will help you see the positive in even the most negative situations. You’ll see blessed instead of stressed. You’ll see how unique you, your children, and your homeschool are (and how awesome that is).
Here’s a small disclaimer before I go, limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs do not go away. They will always be there to latch on to us; however, it’s about getting to that point where we decide to not let them control us. To help you on this journey, download this free Conquering Limiting Beliefs printable and check out my 5 Days of Mommy Affirmations!
CHIME IN: How do you deal with limiting and self-sabotaging beliefs? Let us know in the comments below.
Michelle Huddleston is a wife, homeschooling mompreneur, and servant of the Most High. She is also a published Author, curriculum resource creator, and home education advocate. Michelle’s desire is to help women, wives, and mothers learn to live unapologetically authentic and walk boldly in this one life they’ve been given. You can connect her on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and YouTube. She would love to hear from you!